We have here compiled worksheets to use for: 1) preparing plans for you after to you die or 2) plans for handling the myriad details of a deceased. Where possible, the list starts with the timeliest or most important items.

Ten Simple Social Obligations

1.   Arrange for family members or friends to answer the door and the phone. Keep careful record. Make a list of all people to be contacted. Notify. Check off list. Sort by ones to call and ones to write.
2. Write obituary. Warning: these can be costly. Check. Choose.
   • Name
   • Next of Kin:
     • Spouse, children, grandchildren, siblings, parents, grandparents
     • Preceded by list (which relations died before deceased)
   • Brief bio
   • Residence, employer, hobbies, memberships, education, armed forces…
   • Charity or Memorial contributions
3. Decide on memorial for gifts, if appropriate. Memorial gifts are a way for guests to remember the deceased. They may be as simple as potted plants used in the ceremony, or a photo of the deceased attached to their favorite quote. If the deceased had a favorite charity, providing the name and address will make it easier for guests to make a memorial gift. Charitable organizations often have pre-addressed donation envelopes which they would be happy to make available to have on hand at the service.
4. Arrange hospitality and accommodations for visiting friends and relatives. All those to be included in the memorial service should be notified—either in writing or with a phone call—in time to make travel arrangements. You may want to include a list of hotels close to the memorial location for out-of-town visitors not staying with friends and family.
5. Coordinate supply of food for next several days' activities.
6. Arrange for childcare if needed.
7. Choose and contact pallbearers.
8. Consider special needs of household for cleaning, etc.
9. Decide what to do with the flowers after services.
10. Create list of people to acknowledge/thank. Thank them.

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